“There is only one time that is important – NOW! It is the most important time because it is the only time that we have any power.”
~ Leo Tolstoy
Wasted is the time you dwell sorrowing about the past; do dream about future opportunities and possibilities – most importantly concentrate your mind on the present moment. Yesterday is gone – ashes. Tomorrow is unknown. Only today can you reach for living in peace.
Brainstorm All Grief Healing Resources
Brainstorm about all grief healing resources you can think of which may be available to you. For example, make a list, of any specific individuals, support groups, religious and community groups, private coaches and counselors, or friends or family members. One reason why many struggle so long in their sorrow is because they don’t avail themselves of present opportunities and possibilities.
“A feeling of pleasure or solace can be so hard to find when you are in the depths of your grief. Sometimes it’s the little things that help get you through the day. You may think your comforts sound ridiculous to others, but there is nothing ridiculous about finding one little thing to help you feel good in the midst of pain and sorrow!” ~ Elizabeth Berrien, Creative Grieving: A Hip Chick’s Path from Loss to Hope
Beneficial resources are not measured by their width or height but how they help you heal.
Set Your Personal Conditions
“To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy is to set our own conditions to events each day. To do this is to condition circumstances instead of being conditioned by them.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Continual mourning in sorrow detours useful resources crucial to overcoming deep sorrow. But to determine a beneficial path and to resolve each day to not allow grief and loss to determine your actions is essential.
Sail You Must
It doesn’t matter where you stand nor what your circumstances are. It is the direction you are moving. Drifting without your sail set or setting idle at anchor is self-defeating. At times you must sail with the wind – sometimes against the wind – however, sail you must. Don’t wait; start today. Act on your dreams and inspired impulses and yearnings today. This is a vital moment to set your sail. You must accept the fact you can’t have your old life back and recapture everything you have loss. You have a new situation and must acknowledge the new me and a new condition. Things have changed permanently. Pondered deeply: “IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO ME!” These words emphasize the deeper meaning of setting your own sail and sail you must.
At all times, embrace all positive available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions. Overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief, loss, and sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness.